Home from our Big Gay LA Adventure…

But now I am tired. But I promise details soon! 

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daniel · late afternoon · say it · ping it

Since moving to San Diego Richard and I have been very lucky to have become part of a circle of friends. We all hang out, separately or all together all the time. We always have fun. Whether it’s our weekly SYTYCD parties, movie nights, BBQ’s, or going out to Hillcrest or Downtown and “painting the town”. I consider these people my San Diego family! But lately we have been noticing that we are a bit of a clique. There aren’t really any new faces (well, since Richard and I). No fresh blood. We just aren’t meeting any new people and that makes it tough for the single kids in the group. Not that we want to be matchmakers. Good gawd no! But when you hang out with new people you meet their people… Maybe one of their people might know another single guy and through just getting together our single kids will be exposed to more quality singles? Cause let’s face it, when you hang out at bars every week to meet people you are going to meet people that like hanging out in bars. And aside from all of that, we are a group that likes to entertain. It’s more fun with more people! Right? We decided that Sheila’s BBQ was our big event. We were all to bring new people.

So for me, I am not surprised by any of this. I have been trying to meet people with interests like mine lately, going to the SD Tweet-ups and Blogger Meet-ups, and actually going out and meeting the people I have been talking to on my various online social networks. My goal has been to get some friends who understand what the hell I am talking about with my SEO, CMS, tweets, plurks, and whatnots. People who understand why I constantly check my phone! In the meantime I have met a fair amount of people that I see or talk to regularly enough. So for this past BBQ I was pretty confident that I could get some new folks to come around. As it turned out, not so much. I do understand tho. One I asked at the last minute, and the others, well I mean given the choice I think I’d pick existing friends over newbies… I guess.

My other friends tried different approaches. One tried picking out someone that looked like they’d fit in with us at Mo’s and just walking up and chatting with him for a bit, followed up with the big invite. The guy actually seemed cool about it after the initial “we aren’t hitting on you” stuff was out of the way. He actually agreed to come by, and we got his number. In the end he flaked. Sheila invited her local barista that she chats with at her coffee place all the time. A good idea, I thought! He was a no show as well. So out of 6 new people invited 100% declined or flaked at the last minute.

I guess my point is this. I understand how to meet people. At least online. (Richard and I aren’t single. In the gay world I find making new friends in real life so awkward… People are out looking for dates, not friends usually.) Besides, I think I have a number of great resources right now that are more reliable than just picking someone out of the crowds. I have met people. How do I get them from the acquaintance stage to the friend stage? How do we as an established group assimilate new folk? I can tell you it was a long time before I felt comfortable with everyone… How do we make that easier? 

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daniel · late morning · 6 comments · ping it

Okay wow. I need to make an effort to never record after a early work weekend ever again. Whatever. A sleep deprived me has a cocktail and tries to speak intelligently. The rest is just what you’d expect. So I added a hawt song at the end. As a reward yo… You deserve it if you get there.

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daniel · evening · say it · ping it

I think I was pressured into this one… First, I felt possessive. Second, I need to make sure iTunes still loves me. And 3rd… well, more internet whoring. Heh. Why not? Also, find out why I feel like I stole Christmas.... 

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daniel · late afternoon · 1 comment · ping it

I just discovered “San Diego’s first GAY THEMED podcast”!!

Huh. The site has been up only since January. The first podcast was in… erm… February.

Okay, so I was gay with a podcast (a gay themed podcast even!) and in San Diego in (believe it or not..) July of ‘06. Check! It’s in the archives.. I’ll wait. I even show up in Google on page 7 for “San Diego gay podcast”. That’s like 3 pages higher than this one.

Just sayin’.

Bah. What the hell do I care? I am a blogger first. I never really got a “show” going. I didn’t even really try. Even tho I recorded 50 of the damn things. I don’t even have a Listener Line. Or a microphone. I am not bitter. I swear. Anyhoo. I subscribed to the thing and am going to listen to a few. I’d link to it here but I don’t want to seem bitchy about it. Really. It totally does not bother me.

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daniel · the wee hours · 2 comments · ping it

Join us on Thursday, April 24, 2008, for Dining Out for Life! Dining Out for Life is an international fundraising event involving the generous participation of restaurants throughout the country.

In exchange for pledging a minimum of 25% of their day’s food and liquor sales, restaurants and bars receive promotional materials and are listed in a city-wide marketing and advertising campaign to increase customer traffic on Thursday, April 24, 2008.

The funds raised will benefit The Center’s HIV/AIDS services and prevention programs.

Where did you eat?

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daniel · mid-afternoon · 1 comment · ping it

I have just finished reading Blind Fall. It’s the latest by Christopher Rice. I have read all his books. I am such a good gay like that. He is gay after all, as well as Anne Rice’s kid. Actually, all that aside he has become one of my favorite authors, and I was looking forward to reading this one. I have to admit it started slow. I feel like Randy Jackson right now, but yo yo dawg, check it out, it was kinda weird for me in the beginning. I think that this story was more of a stretch, I mean in my opinion it had to be difficult for a gay man to create and bring to life a straight Marine character. Luckily, the weirdness in the beginning faded fast and I got completely hooked on the story. As I tend to do if I like the book. It is not uncommon for me to finish a good book in one or two sittings. I think I read this one in three. That’s still a very good book. In the end I was sobbing too. But I won’t give away plot. I suck at that and will ruin it somehow.... How’s about the Barnes & Noble synopsis?

From three-time New York Times bestselling author Christopher Rice—whose novels have been called “bold and ambitious” by The New York Times, “chillingly perverse” by USA Today, and “shocking, sexy...intricate” by Glamour—comes this startling psychological thriller about an Iraq War vet who seeks redemption and revenge when a fellow Marine he failed to protect during the war is brutally murdered.
John Houck became a Marine to become a hero. But his life changed when he failed to notice an explosive device that ended up maiming the captain of his Force Recon Company, a respected Marine who nearly sacrificed himself to save John’s life.
Home from Iraq, John pays a visit to his former captain, only to discover the captain has been gruesomely murdered. John pursues a strange man he sees running from the scene, but he discovers that Alex Martin is not the murderer. Alex is, in fact, the former captain’s secret male lover and the killer’s intended next victim.

All in all this book carries the dp.com seal of approval. It’s a good read. A good story. And it approaches the gay subject matter from a perspective that I feel many readers (regardless of their own orientation) can relate to if they maintain an open mind.

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daniel · the wee hours · 2 comments · ping it

And the Gayest Songs Of All Time Are.... (via)

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daniel · lunch time · say it · ping it

American Idol drama continues… I love it. Booger boy was a nekkid lap dancer.

Like the rain showers and budding flowers, you can count on spring to bring an “American Idol” sex scandal. The show has endured everything from Frenchie Davis’ adult Web site photos to Corey Clark’s claim that he had an affair with Paula Abdul to Antonella Barba’s lascivious pictures… This year’s shocker, according to The Associated Press, is that 24-year-old semifinalist David Hernandez used to work as a nude dancer at male strip club Dick’s Cabaret in Phoenix. The manager of the club, Gordy Bryan, told the news service on Monday that Glendale, Arizona, native Hernandez had performed fully nude and gave lap dances to the club’s mostly male clientele. Full Story

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daniel · late evening · say it · ping it

Twink Who May or May Not Be Zac Efron ‘Busted” in Gay Kiss Photo

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daniel · early afternoon · say it · ping it