It just never get’s old…

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Hello from Sunny San Diego, where today it rained. For like 5 minutes. Luckily I wasn’t having a parade! LOL, no. Just a day at the beach with my Hungarian Man. We wanted to something different, away from the constant company of friends and booze. So we went to the beach with a make-shift picnic lunch and some bottled water. We ate at a table amongst all of the tourists at Mission Beach and then went on a long hike/walk around the paths throughout the park. It was nice. We actually chatted the entire time about a lot of things. It’s can be awkward, that first actually *alone together* date. We did just fine. *grin*

In other news, the weekend was again a blast. I think my new job will have to offer weekends off. They are my favorite times!! Thursday was our early weekend kick off hanging with @lazSD and his roomies as well as some lingering out-of-towners from pride. I may or may not have drank too much and was home early (thanks to @lazSD). Friday was a much needed night in. My cat has been under the weather with her missing meow and meds. She needed love. I also rented two movies to burn through these free movie coupons from my cable provider Time Warner. So then Saturday I went with @lazSD to take his cat Tigger to the doctor. He has been peeing out of the box, which can be a sign of a UTI. We’ll know Monday. After that we lunched with his roomies (a really great couple) as well as out-of-towners and another couple we are friends with. (Those last guys are online and review places and food on a blog. I’ll have to see if I can link to them…)

Anyway, the unemployed (me) and the frugal (@lazSD) were outvoted and we ended up the the exclusive Martini’s Above Fourth for the rest of the evening. Cheap drinks in a fancy gourmet martini bar? No fun. But we did it. The company was good and we had the whole patio to ourselves. Yay. (There was a drag queen performing inside. If you follow me on Instagram you may have seen her in her ComicCon finery…)

And today is where I started. You are all caught up! Have a fantabulous Monday!

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Which “Gay Clique” do you belong to? (via OMG Blog)

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You guys. OMG. Brian of cheapblueguitar fame just left. I miss him already.

Yes, it was only our second meeting face to face. Yes, he stayed with us all weekend. Yes, it was awesome.

It all started Friday evening. I had had a CRAZY workweek. I got home later than expected and had to do this wonder woman twirl and show up at the airport. Richard was off later than me! He didn’t even get to twirl! Anyhoo, we arrived at the airport at the proper time, snatched Brian off the curb and took him basically across the street to out favorite “toast to your arrival” location, C-Level. It offers the most amazing view of downtown San Diego I have discovered yet. Also, I am now mayor of that venue on FourSquare. HA! (I literally screamed like a girl. My first real mayorship couldn’t be more awesome!) From there we of course took Brian to Urban Mo’s, our local gay hot spot. Drinks were had. And so yeah. The post below, Touched for the Very First Time occurred. Because Mo’s virgins get a sticker!

The next day we did the Marathon Tourist Day. We kicked it of with brunch at R-Gang Eatery (where the Bloody Marys were a MEAL). Then it was off to Balboa Park, where Brian and I (okay, more ME) were enamored with a band of robotic singing pantomimes. I immediately bought the CD on iTunes and friended them on Facebook. LOVE STEAM POWERED GIRAFFE!!! OMG! It’s like this amazing retro-gothic-sexy-funny Robots that performed on the side walk near the pond on The Prado. LOVE.

After that we were off to downtown to catch the ferry (on Joelle's">Joelle’s of Tenth-muse.com suggestion) which was amazing. We took a few pics (one upside-down) on the boat. Then it was all about strolling on the Island. We lunched at the Coronado Brewery where Brian enjoyed beer with an orange wedge. Yummm? We followed that up with cocktails on our friend Sheila’s patio. Luxury. After that it was a quick stop at the Coronado Cupcakery for dessert and catching the ferry home! And much needed sleep!

Then it was Sunday. The Big BBQ Day. All our local besties were present! (Twitter names to follow) @goostersd, @uberglitterati, @tenthmuse, @richardallen, @dano413, and non-twitter Matt. Such a great time at the Tiki Bar (which is now an official place on Foursquare) Around 7 I had to rush Brian off to the airport! I got back in time to clean the kitchen…

It was the best weekend ever. We all love Brian, and no one wanted him to go home to the fiery hot Phoenix…
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I love a good visual aid… (via omg blog)

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Whoa. Ladyboy Gaga?

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So I decided this year I’d do the Wreath Auction at Martini’s Above Fourth as damage control. You see, last year Richard went solo, with friends, and actually bought a wreath. For a lot of money. Like a lot. The wreath, while pretty, matches NONE of our existing holiday decor. It was very expensive. OMG I HATE IT!!!

So, anyhoo. This year we went together. It was fun. There were the muscle boys in sleep bottoms, sans shirts, AKA Wreath Models. The wreaths were.. interesting. There was lots of booze. But I gotta say, after hearing about last year, I was disappointed. First and for-most, the wreath models were being abused by this snatch-y queen in an untucked dress shirt and tie. Gross. She was also abusive to the guests. Secondly the wreaths, while impressive, were nothing like the one Richard bought last year that I love to hate. In fact there was only one that compared, and the price immediately soared out of reach, yet 90 percent of them went for chump change!

I was amazed tho, as to the holiday spirit we encountered. There was a man sitting close-by. He was bidding on everything. He had already won a lot of wreaths. He gave our friend 100 dollars to put towards her wreaths if she won any. She didn’t, but the thought behind it meant a lot. Richard bought him a drink or two.

Later we were famished and ditched the auction and went to Urban Mo’s for real food. It was too much fun and after too many drinks, a 7 ft. tall drag queen, and meeting some gay neighbors from a block away, we called it a night. Good night moon!

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So last week, or the week before, I looked into the mirror and realized I needed a hair cut. Sadly a hair cut was not in the budget. But I knew the scissors were at hand. In fact, in the drawer to the left. It was just too easy. I then made the fatal error. I self-cut.

Now realize, this is a serious situation in any case, but as a GAY MAN this was a major error. I am lucky that Cher didn’t swoop down out of the sky and beat me herself. But I was desperate! I had to look my best and a hair cut was NOT an option. So I picked up the scissors and got busy. Truth be told I was actually cuter than I had been for about 48 hours. It went downhill from there. Fast. In 4 days I looked bad. Haggard. Just bad. I see why self-styling is so risky.

So today I went in to my usual gal. We said hello, and she asked if I wanted anything different. I spilled the beans: “before we start, I have a confession.” “I know”, she replied with a smile. “You cut it yourself.” 

OMG. She could tell by looking. It was embarrassing. I had made the fatal error. My gay card was at risk…

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My family made a decision when we were growing up to move west. You see, my father had to go where there was work (he was an electrician) and the extended family back in the home town were too much drama. Now I don’t know how true that was, but that’s what my parents told us. When my brother and I were still quite young we’d travel back to Massachusetts once a year or so and visit. Both sets of grandparents, my mother’s sister, my father’s sisters and brother, and all the cousins. We did that for years while in between the odd set of grandparents would visit us. As we got older and things got more expensive we traveled much less. The grandparents still visited, and my mother’s sister and her daughter, and we’d see my father’s brother’s family as they were not as far. All those other relatives just became people that only sent a holiday card. Never once did they visit, so we never went back. My parents would go out to handle emergencies, and eventually my mother’s mom and sister moved to Florida. My father’s parents have since passed, and my brother went with my father to some of the arrangements. I was already out on my own trying to make my way…

I guess the point is that there are all these relatives that are strangers to me. A lot too. My father had 3 sisters and 2 brothers (I think, to be honest I forget the total since some have died). At least 3 of those had families that I haven’t seen since I was like 14. It’s weird to think about somehow. All these people that I knew existed but were really not part of our lives. It felt normal though. Huh. So anyways, when my brother chose to move to Boston he did so knowing that he’d be near that portion of the family, actively choosing to reconnect. He is at some family member’s home for dinner every weekend. He is invited to every event, BBQ, potluck, and all that stuff. He even juggles the drama of which part of the family isn’t speaking to whom! LOL, right?

So sometime in December I got this email with the subject of “hello”. It was from my father’s sister (the one that we always knew was a lesbian, even tho she never said. She has *always* lived with the same woman):

Is this nephew Danny in California?

I deleted it. It scared me! What could she want and HOW did she find me? Thank gawd she had used my *personal email* account, or I would have died. I soon forgot about it, until a week or so ago when I got another one, from the same aunt forwarding the last note, but with this added:

I’m trying this again.

OMFG! Now it was like she had verified the address and resent and was calling me out. I HAD to reply. Ugh. So I thought about it and settled with this:

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And it’s his birthday today!! Let’s celebrate by gazing at his hawtness…

I have actually met him (Fred is a friend of his) and he is just as beautiful in reality. He is also a very nice guy, which I imagine is kinda rare in “gay-celeb” land.. So Happy Birthday Reichen!

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